Funny about Money

There are two things in life that I’m funny about; cheese and money.  With the former, it’s actually English cheeses I have a real thing against.  It just turns my stomach.  ‘Nuff said.  With the latter, it seems to be a subject that people like to probe me about here on the blog and as I’m not an uber intellectual fashion blogger who  muses about the art of fashion and make things stop at Hussein Chalayan’s mechanical dresses, the subject of ‘buying shit’ be it shop reviews, new purchases, value for money, the act of assessing whether something is ‘worth it’, and ergo money, does make a regularl appearance here.  I don’t make any bones about that. 

When I say I’m funny about it, it’s really just the usual politeness that comes with the touchy subject of how much money one has.  You just don’t talk about it.  It’s a necessity that we need but not something we need to blah on about.  It seems though in fashion blogging, (or perhaps in other areas of blogging) invariably questions arise.  The one I get the most via comments and emails is…’How do you afford all this stuff?!?’ 

The very brutal truth is though, I’ve never really been lacking in the funds.  I’m not a bajillionnaire (so much more fun than being a millionnaire…) but I’m not a pauper.  In my student days, I was never scraping the baked bean tin for the last scrap nor was I driving around dropping into Hakkasan for meals.  I started working in digital advertising immediately and it was pretty decent post-graduate-in-London kinda wages.  Now that I’ve moved jobs and it’s still a decent packet and I also take on freelance work on the side.  Facts established.  I’m probably a lot older (24) than some people who read this blog and I’m just at a bit of a go-getter stage in my life (I fully plan on burning out and collapsing mid-work in a high heel clad dramatic way at the age of 30….).

I guess what fundamentally irks me a little about the probing questions is that I’ve taken for granted being able to blog about personal experiences in fashion and doing so without the need to take into account whether this applies to many people at all.  Blogging about London-y things could be conceived as selfish but to that I retort I can only inform about what I see and experience.  This applies to my fashion experiences.  So yes, admittedly, not everyone is going to be able to afford some ¬£170 sample sale Pierre Hardy shoes or even physically ge there, but it’s something that did happened to me yet I have feelings of guilt when someone pipes up and says ‘Hello!  Student here!’. 

A lot of blogs I admire fully demonstrate the very obvious and ‘Oh-gosh-let’s-not-go-there’ BLATANT fact that nobody needs money to be into fashion or to be stylish and you can look to the left to see that.  Yes style doesn’t cost a thing.  However, I do get the feeling that as a result there is this slight flip reverse situation of the ‘Haves’ and the ‘Have-Nots’.  Suddenly the ‘Haves’ are made to feel a little guilty about being able to afford a designer splurge and the ‘Have Nots’ are saintly for being able to thrift an outfit for ¬£5 and shop solely at H&M.  Evil moneyed fashionistas vs. angelic thrifty fashionistas.  See what I mean…money is funny and the more I write about this, the more I’m not making sense, even to myself…      

In a schizophrenic sort of way, whilst I have the means to treat myself and buy nice things, I’m also a stubborn bargain hunter.  It’s odd that in the right circumstances, I can drop a wad on something quite extravagant and then in charity shops, car boot sales and markets I’ll haggle if I can and scrutinise things very carefully.  Hell, in some weeks of the months, a fiver for an outfit can become a necessity if I’ve splashed the cash a bit for the a few weeks on the trot.  Even my designer buys have mainly come via the lucky eBay dip or through very good sample sales.  The key thing is though that even if I ever became a bajillionnaire (which isn’t a goal by the way…), I still think I’d be cruising the Topshop sales and thrifting and doing all the things that give me bargainous joys purely because I’m very abdamnant that I have that fully varied ‘mix’ of origins in my wardrobe and my own personal style.  In any case, on the opposite end of the scale, there could be a bajillionnaire reading this blog right now chortling at my poorman’s  Balenciaga SS08 vintage dress customisation, so it does work both ways.   

What I guess I’m saying is whilst I thrift by choice and simultaneously buy something at Dover Street Market I don’t feel like I have to be apologetic about being able to do that.  However at times the obtuse angles of fashion blogging can reveal, that these things might come out with a negative light being shined on them and so whilst I took this opportunity to get the ‘funny money’ business all out, I’m still hoping with sparkly eyed optimism that in the broad spectrum of style and fashion and all the lovelies it offers up, that dough/cash/moolah stuff just really isn’t an issue at all… because it shouldn’t be…

92 Replies to “Funny about Money”

  1. I agree. I don’t really think you need to justify the amounts you spend whether it’s a fiver or five hundred quid, it’s your blog detailing your style loves and shopping finds. End of. I’m similar in a way I suppose….I find it hard to spend money on mid-market items. If something is $350 I’d rather spend more and get something nicer and more special, or spend way less and get something a lot cheaper and perhaps of lesser quality.

  2. Amen. I thrift for necessity but I don’t gripe on the fact that other bloggers can afford other things–because I’m not even old enough to have a job so I don’t pretend that I have the money for it. Of course jealousy will always be there for an amazing shopping trip but I satisfy myself with the fact that under different circumstances, different outcomes can happen and they might be just as jealous or happy for me for my thrift buys as I am of their designer purchases…

  3. At 30, I’m much older than you, work 2 jobs and still feel like I have to justify myself when people/friends snidely comment, “That must’ve been expensive!” or “Ooh, fancy!”. I work hard for my money and I have every right to spend it how I want to. People who make veiled comments are just jealous. Boo to their judgmental ways!

  4. I HATE funny money business. I always trot out the same ‘I wish money didn’t exist, it seems so unnecessary’ and I always get the same (absolutely true, I know!) reply: but then there would never be anything in good quality.
    I am fully aware that it probably as a result of never actually needing anything I couldn’t afford, but to me, leftover money does no good sitting around… and I hate it when people look down at you for spending more than they might on the frivulous subject of fashion. On the other end of the scale, overly expensive things purely repulse me… many of the pictures of the sartorialist with clearly identifiable shoes… bags… skirt… top, ooh and sunglasses too literally make me feel queasy, and the same with the skyhigh prices some people tend to spend on fashion (and I’m talking A LOT more than you).
    So at the end of the day, yep, I agree with you that money IS an extremely funny business, so let’s just make everything free! And yes, I do realise how ridiculously naive that sounds…

  5. I wonder why people bring their personal financial situation into your blog. I personally think that if you can afford Pierre Hardy samples and want it then get it. If you like thrift shops then shop there. If you like both, its good too. Its a personal choice. I don’t shop at thrift shops because I don’t like it but its cool if anyone else does. Your choice has no relation to whether I’m a student (which I was until this month when I finished) or my paycheck.
    I am inspired by your shoes, skirts and style. I think you do a great job of taking designer visions and creating them for yourself at your budget. Sometimes that includes using expensive designer goods but sometimes it means using thrift store goods. This is why I read blogs, its interesting to see your view.
    On another note, I think most people spend lots of money on specific things and other people can’t imagine spending the same amount. For example, I will buy a beautiful Prada bag which causes my boyfriend to have a heart attack when he sees the price tag since he still uses the oldest, ugliest wallet in the world. However, he’ll buy a Mac(which in general costs more than a PC with the same hardware specs) because he needs a new gadget and feels like it even though he has a less than one year old top of the line computer. I use an 1.5 years old PC laptop that wasn’t that expensive in the first place and I’m happy.

  6. Good for you for being honest. And I love when you post pictures of your designer finds . . . I’m sort of living vicariously through you and your glamorous London life! The only time I was actually maybe a little jealous was when you got that Balenciaga coat cheap on Ebay because the seller couldn’t spell the name right. 🙂

  7. Very well written Susie. Your money is just that…yours. You should not feel as if you have to explain yourself to anyone. You blog to share your ideas on style and fashion not to discuss your financial situation. Keep up the inspiration because you sure do inspire me. 🙂

  8. Loooove your blog and your very personal,creative and playful sense of style! It is a great inspiration and/or distraction to me whether I can afford it or not and I think that’s what fashion blogs are about.
    You shouldn’t even justify, it’s your choice and no one has to like or follow it.

  9. Susie, don’t listen to anything anyone says. You are clearly NOT being a snob about the things you can afford, and anyone who bitches about it is…well, dumb. You document your own style finds, you’re not saying that all of us have to go out and get the same things you do, or that it’s impossible to have good fashion if you don’t have prada this or chanel that.
    In fact, you do quite a fantastic job of mixing expensive designer things with thrifty things, and it’s one of the reasons I like your blog so much.

  10. You shouldn’t have to apologize to anyone. This is YOUR blog and you should post whatever you want on it. I can’t believe people are complaining about you posting about sales in London- I mean, come on! I love to hear about it even if I am jealous that I can’t go as I am half way around the world! Vicarious shopping for sure! And the money thing is nobody’s business but your own. We make our own money (well, at least some of us do!) and can spend it whatever way we like. Sometimes I think people forget or maybe don’t know the ages of some of the bloggers- we are grown people who have JOBS. You shouldn’t have to temper your posts to consider certain people who are reading your blog (students, thrifters, etc..). They come here (or should be coming here) because of your unique point of view.

  11. I am guilty for asking you the question of “how do you afford all of this?” when I started to read your blog. I only wondered because you aren’t too much older than me (20) and I highly doubt I will land a job out of university that will let me buy designer items. Despite that sad fact, I read your blog because it is inspires me to think differently about one’s personal style, and I have because of your blog and others, become more experimental with my style (despite a student with very little spending money). I have never read this blog and thought “well I can’t afford that so forget it.” If anything I think that, since reading fashion blogs, you must be the most modest fashion blogger, I have ever read anyways.

  12. Susie how much you earn is your business, and it’s obvious that you work very hard for whatever that amount may be. I love to here about all the places you go and all the things you find whether they be designer or from a thrift store.

  13. i think you provide the perfect happy medium, some pricey, some thrify. i think everyone with a passion for fashion (so didn’t just type that…) thinks the same way. are these questions coming from readers, or maybe random clickers or outsiders who don’t have an interest or appreciation of clothes so don’t understand spending ¬£100+ on an item? that said, you aren’t defending yourself, just telling how it is, and it seems everyone has a pleasure to spend their earning on, be it gadgets, holidays or gorgeous clothes. i think it’s just people reading about you and being nosey!

  14. Susie, don’t listen to any of those people. If they aren’t pleased with your posts, then let them read other blogs. You earned that money yourself and therefore, you can spend it on anything you want. Don’t change your blog just to satisfy the malcontents. I love it just the way it is!

  15. I don’t think you have to justify anything you do. Who is anyone to judge? Everyone has their own financial reality to deal with and no one should expect the world or the blogosphere to revolve around them and their needs. What are they going to do next, yell at Vogue for daring to use Alexander McQueen and Chanel clothes in the magazine?

  16. I admit that I have wondered (internally always!) at someone’s means but would never imagine thinking less or more of someone’s fashion cred depending on the funds at their disposal. Instead, if I admire someone’s style and lifestyle like I certainly admire yours, Susie, I sometimes ponder the different elements that make it possible. There are usually myriad weapons in the arsenal – imagination, enthusiasm about up and coming designers, a fantastic eye for bargain hunting – how much one can spare for an occasional splurges also factors into that. While I am guilty about considering one of the things in life that you’re funny about it’s because I’d love to live your life and sometimes consider what makes it possible on the monetary side. I love your blog and have been reading it for two years, please don’t change anything on account of some grumblers!

  17. So interesting — I have noticed the exact same thing. I recently linked to a girl’s blog (, she is 16 & has amazing style. I was so impressed! But quite a few of my readers became really negative, with comments like “Oh if I had that much money I’d look great too”. Yes, she is well-off, but so are a lot of people who manage to look horrific on a daily basis (Donald Trump, for example, & the list goes on). Money does NOT buy taste! I think a lot of people view cash as the answer to all of life’s problems, & anyone who has a bit of cash spare knows that that is just NOT the case.
    I’ve also noticed that people who only ever thrift-shop & would never dream of buying new do seem to be held up as saintly, perfect, amazing idols. Obviously our planet is degrading & mass consumption is part of that, but it’s almost like it is more acceptable to be scraping by than to have expendable income…
    & anyone like you or me who writes about our lives online is always going to have to field questions like “How did you afford that?” or “How do you make your money?”, which makes me feel uncomfortable. It’s no one’s business… I wouldn’t dream of asking anyone something like that!

  18. oh yes, i agree, it’s very rude to ask someone how much money they make!
    maybe they’re just envious, which is no fault of your own.

  19. Well said. Firstly it’s no ones business how or what money you earn. Secondly style and what you buy is up to you.
    I’ll happily splurge and save depending on avaiable funds. Sometimes the good times roll sometimes they don’t.
    There is nothing worse than whinny victim moaning. I’d love a Chanel 2.55 and I’m halfway to saving up for one but I’ll wait until I can go and buy one – it might be 10 months or 10 years, so what.
    You valuable input on secondhand shopping is fab and I can’t be ar*ed to do it as you now but I advocate it for those looking to achieve pieces on a small budget. I’m appalled someone has commented on your fun and perfectly acceptable indulgence – work those Pierre Hardy shoes they are dreamboats!

  20. Well said. Firstly it’s no ones business how or what money you earn. Secondly style and what you buy is up to you.
    I’ll happily splurge and save depending on avaiable funds. Sometimes the good times roll sometimes they don’t.
    There is nothing worse than whinny victim moaning. I’d love a Chanel 2.55 and I’m halfway to saving up for one but I’ll wait until I can go and buy one – it might be 10 months or 10 years, so what.
    You valuable input on secondhand shopping is fab and I can’t be ar*ed to do it as you now but I advocate it for those looking to achieve pieces on a small budget. I’m appalled someone has commented on your fun and perfectly acceptable indulgence – work those Pierre Hardy shoes they are dreamboats!

  21. I agree with everyones comments too. It certainly isn’t any of our business how much money you make, that’s so rude just to ask! I love that you mix both charity shop finds with a few more upmarket things, it seems that you have worked incredibly hard to be able to afford the odd designer treat! You’re great!

  22. I really know and understand where you are coming from! I tend to buy quite a bit in Zara and HM but then also buy a few designer items – normally in the sale (see how I’m making an excuse already!!) ….I so often feel I have to justify it somehow.
    Money (lots or none or anywhere in between!) does make most people act strange! I think that includes blog readers, family, friends et al!
    Thanks Susie again for a great piece! 🙂

  23. i think i speak for most students when i say we’re here to oogle the fancy finds as well as get a heads up on the sales (when will they arrive anyway?).
    Blogs are supposed to have an element of voyeurism, they’re not style guides dammit.

  24. I’ve always felt the need to justify spending my money on what other’s may see as “expensive” purchases as well. We all work hard for what we have and I do not that think that you should feel bad for being able to buy yourself nice things.
    We should celebrate our success (as monetary as it may be) NOT apologize for it 🙂

  25. Hey Susie,
    I fell in love with some £180 Pierre Hardy shoes at the CDG sample sale and decided not to buy because have my eye on holiday clothes. Usually I would buy these and not think about it so i am glad you did.
    The shoes at that sale were to die for x

  26. You’re right. It shouldn’t be about money. Real style and a good eye can’t be bought. At the moment I’m perfectly content with rummaging through charity shops and after I graduate and hopefully obtain a job that can support my hobby I won’t feel at all guilty about branching off further. I think it’s important to explore your options now, rather than dream about a certain unattainable item and feeling rather dead inspiration-wise.

  27. While I loved this post, I have to say that you really dont need to justify how you spend your money. You work hard, and you’re entitled to play hard. If that means spending ¬£170 on a pair of shoes, then hell, why not? 🙂

  28. Im blessed on many levels when i comes to fashion and money.
    1. Im an only child
    2. Im an only child of a very stylish mother
    3. Im an only child
    People have always had a problem with how fancy or how shiny I look but at the end of the day if you are grateful, kind, appreciative and hard working you can be as shiny as you want. xf

  29. If anyone’s been making you feel bad about you being able to afford stuff that they can’t, they need to shut up because
    a) it’s none of their business-
    b) your money is something that you work hard to earn, whether you’re working in fashion or not. The last thing you need is to feel bad about that!
    I’d say true style is about being able to make the most of whatever you have- and if you have more than some or most people, that’s not a bad thing and you have nothing to feel guilty about. I reckon a lot of us are thrifters by necessity thanks to issues of money/access, but you don’t have to change the way you live or shop just to make your audience feel better. You manage to dig out things that work for you wherever you go, that’s something I admire tremendously and as for the London-centricity of the blog- you ARE a Londoner after all, be proud of it! (and I love reading about things from your POV too).

  30. good for you. i agree with you wholeheartedly on the issue of moeny and style. the qualms and histrionics some people develop are usually fueled by simple envy, i think. and the entire galaxy of fashion inevitably brings together simmering whispers of class, status, etc alongside more purely aesthetic, emotional responses. all in all, though, it’s really a cop-out when i hear someone say, “you need to spend XXX to look great” because i personally believe that in spite of all the aspirational dimensions of fashion, at the end of the day one’s participation in it ought to be fueled first and foremost by a passion and love of the fantasies, colors, textures and shapes.

  31. I’m never jealous about how much/little you spend… I’m just jealous that you live in London! (I, meanwhile, am trapped in the middle of nowhere…) I hope to move to London in the next couple of years and if I do I will definitely look to your blog for tips/hot spots!
    I’m sorry you feel like you have to explain yourself, but I hope you realize your core readers all love you the way you are.

  32. i think what i love about your blog is the way you do mix all aspects of fashion. some things that you blog about go straight over my head, if i’m honest, but i think it does fundamentally come down to style, and even if you didn’t have the funds then you would still have that amazing style, and you’d show that no matter what.
    i admit, there have been times when i’ve thought “how can she afford that!?” and the ‘gossip’ side in all of us probably wants to know, but it is none of our businesses! so i have slapped my wrist.
    but, i think the point raised about age is really important too.
    anyway, less noseyness and more appreciation!

  33. Money aside, I just love the way you put things together – you have changed the way I look at dressing altogether. I think it’s extraordinarily odd that this kind of dichotomy is going on – a fashion ‘tall poppy syndrome’. And it doesn’t just exist on blogs, though I guess running a blog leaves you more vulnerable to rude and inquisitive people. I am a 21-year-old student and my own friends chastise me for skimping on food and saving on electricity and things like that, so I can buy what I like clothes-wise. And why not??
    I guess that’s the question – why not? I just admire the way you dress, Susie, whether it’s thrifted or sample-saled!
    Though I disagree entirely with you about English cheese. Yum.

  34. Know exactly how you feel…i work really long hours to buy what i want, and i hate it when people question how much things cost. At the end of the day you only live once and my personal mantra is ‘as long as you can afford to pay your bills and eat until next pay day then spend spend spend spend!’ enjoy!!
    if you want any examples of that mantra in motion then visit my blog! haha!

  35. I do feel odd about the idea of splurging on expensive things and haggling with charity/car boot items. I’d do it the other way round. Why beat the poor sellers down?

  36. You know, usually I frequent fashion blogs for the pics, save for one or two- this is one of the two now. I used to blog a lot more than I do now and it does at times, start to get a little imposing when people say things like, “oh your dad must be loaded”- no joke, a comment from my earlier years as a blogger.
    I guess, it’s just that blogging let’s people into our lives and they tend to feel a sense of “closeness” with us [ie stylebytes, her disappearance and the countless bloggers blogging about it], people just don’t realise they’re being intrusive-
    Having said that, it’s never ever ok [in e-life or real life] to ask about anyone’s finances. Seriously. Etiquette 101.

  37. You and I must be on the same brain wave. . . I was thinking about writing a blog similar to this one (probably still will). I get so sick of people silently judging me based on the designer purchases I choose to make. I remember being 17 and toting my Kate Spade bag (years ago), which I worked long babysitting hours to pay for. One of my classmates demanded to know the price, so for lack of a better answer, I told her and her friends totally looked down their noses at me, from that point on. I didn’t know what else to do. . . but from that point on, I keep all costs to myself.
    My wardrobe isn’t designer to the extent of yours, but when I want something really badly. . . sometimes I get it. I work very hard and I’m in my twenties and it’s probably the only time in my life, I’ll have this money to play with. . . so I’m trying to enjoy it? Why does that bother people? I know it’s not the most important thing in life. . . but it makes me happy.

  38. Although I think it’s natural for people to be curious about such things, especially when you’ve amassed an enviable collection of designer items at a relatively young age, it’s still prety rude to ask, and even worse to make you feel guilty for the way you spend your hard-earned money.
    Nobody could ever accuse you of buying expensive items for the sake of showing off wealth, it’s clear that make calculated purchases based on your love for fashion and full appreciation of the quality of work put into the pieces you acquire.
    I think your blog and the lifestyle you seem to lead rests in a particular niche. It’s not a fantasy life where you’re some ridiculously rich heiress-type (“bajillionare” as you put it 🙂 thoughtlessly spending thousands of pounds. Your London-life is very covetable and comparatively glamourous but as far as I can tell it’s something you’ve earned through your hard work so if anything that’s an inspirational story! I think you actually help break down the “untouchable” aura surrounding top designer clothing by demonstrating how regular, hard-working (albeit very talented, driven and focussed) people can wear and participate in high fashion too. Your love of fashion extends over the whole spectrum, high and low, you’re a passionate, educated participant in fashion and no one should begrudge you for that!

  39. Even if I had the money I wouldn’t have the commitment to go to sample sales and I certainly don’t have your charity shop abilities, shopping is more a test of patience than anything else.
    I don’t understand why people are asking you how you afford things- perhaps they need to pick up a paper and do some sums and work out a budget.

  40. Sometimes I read your blog, or other people’s blogs, and feel green-eyed that you can afford certain things. Then I trot out of the house in something I got at a sample sale when I was feeling a bit flush, and a friend asks me how I could afford it. To a certain degree, it goes around and comes around. There will always be those with money who look bad, and those who spend their money with discernment – and for every chic, inspired thrifter, there’ll be a number of girls dressed head to toe in identikit Primark. There’s not much point drawing lines in the sand – we are what we are, and if we had more money, most of us would spend it on the things we enjoy, be they fashion or other pursuits. You can’t take it with you…

  41. I totally agree. I actually have a fairly decent job and I work extra hours to get more money but I still never spend it on designer stuff. Because it’s not me. I’m a bit of a money collector I just save and save. I would love to be able to spend more money on clothes but I just have heart attacks everytime I try. So I thrift for the sake of health… 🙂

  42. People are idiots. You know that maxim “Dance like no one’s watching…blah blah blah”? Try this:
    Spend like there’s no tomorrow!

  43. Omg susie, this is your blog not a teen website, you don’t have to provide any excuses for doing what you do nor show people ‘what to buy for 15 quid’! You are the world’s best fashion blogger and this is your outlet for your world. I love stylebubble!

  44. Amen, I certainly am glad you never apologize for you wardrobe–you shouldn’t and you shouldn’t have to! What makes your blog (and my other favorite ones) so good is that it is personal. It’s all about choices too. I don’t have a lot of funds, but I’d rather buy a new dress than a dinner out…

  45. Great post. Although a shameit was necessary.
    I think anyone who reads this blog should be able to tell that you’re intellgent and ambitious – why begrudge the fact that you’re able to translate this into earning a decent amount of money? This is London after all.
    It’s all about spending priorities too I think. My workmates will often be genuinely shocked when I come back from lunch having spent ¬£100 on a pair of shoes, but most of them don’t think twice about their gym memberships, cars and other items which I couldn’t imagine forking out for myself.
    ps – even red leicester!??

  46. Great Post Susie. I have been in the position where I could spend a lot of $ on clothes when I lived in Alberta Canada with their booming economy. Now that I moved to a new and fabulous city (Vancouver, BC) I am still getting on my feet again in regards to *disposable income*. The trade off is far worth it to live with an amazing ocean view and right on the beach. So now I shop in thrift stores, I do dream of the day when I will have this and some new clothes as well.

  47. Just to balance out the discussion – this is really strange. I enjoy reading the posts every day and not once upon reading has the issue of money really entered into my head.
    What I get from this blog is inspiration from a diverse range of sources and Susie’s interesting take on fashion.

  48. if you have a job, i don’t see why anyone should wonder how you afford things. even if you have a measly income, it’s all about sacrifices. take me for example: i think i do alright for myself, but some would say i’m poor. i buy nice things for myself every once in a while, and i always pay with my debit card. however–i don’t have an ipod, got made fun of by an old guy for my “prehistoric” cell phone, and waited in line at best buy for 8 hours to get my $250 laptop. i also don’t like the idea of paying rent, as my money isn’t going to yield any tangible return, so i chose to save money by living slightly outside of the city. yep–it’s about figuring out what you’re really interested in, and then re-organizing the other parts of your life you’re not exactly jazzed about.

  49. I think that your post resonates with a lot of people. I am in a similar situation as yours in regards to what I buy and sometimes do not feature my “upscale” purchases because I don’t want to alienate anyone. But then I think why should it? Everyone’s blogs feature these grand designer items that they covet or admire, myself included, so if one actually gets to acquire one of these grand designer items why should it be an issue? Isn’t it what we’ve all craved, oohed and ahhed over? When I ponder this I realize that the goal of my blog is to post fashions that I wear acquired by whatever means because I like it, whether it is YSL or Forever21. The goal is not to post fashions because I was able to acquire them all from thrift shops at the cheapest possible cost, even if this may be the case sometimes. This may be the goal of some blogs and I think it is a great challenge to look fashionable while spending as little as you can.
    But as I am rambling, look to the goal you have set out for yourself in creating this blog and you can’t go wrong. It is about you being you and presenting yourself, and if part of presenting yourself includes nice things, so be it. What do you have to apologize for? Nothing. You have earned a fashionable, enviable life and not just because of what you can afford. And I believe the majority enjoy seeing the “high” with the “low”.
    My response to “how can you afford that?”
    “I have a sugar daddy”. – It is a ridiculous answer to a ridiculous question. There is just no need to justify. You keep posting your pretty amazing finds.

  50. look at all the comments! i’m going to skip the who cares what anyone says, it’s your blog and you also have a right to spend your money in any way you see fit, etc etc.
    what really gets to me though is that it happens with friends (and i wonder if it happens to you too) when i sometimes complain about the increasing prices in zara and topshop and it always boils down to my prada obsession (even so, i’ve hardly enough in my closet to even justify that comment). it’s always your bag can buy x number of items in that store so what are you complaining about. it’s all very well for me to splurge occasionally but then one must be sensible about what are essentially high street versions so we should pay accordingly. i wish it could be like my blog – i tell ppl if it offends you, there are many fabulous blogs you can read instead :p

  51. to preface: this is NOT a sob story. please don’t think i’m trying to gain sympathy at all! :]
    i grew up in a lower-middle class family, went to college on loans, and now live in an expensive city (seattle… not ny or sf but expensive in its own right!) trying to make ends meet. i worked two jobs up until a few weeks ago and even then, after paying rent and student loans, i usually had $200-300 for groceries, going out, and clothes. i won’t post semi-snotty comments on blogs, but of course i get jealous of people who can afford to shop high-end, as now i can’t even shop at all!
    one of my favorite quotes of all time is from the book Harriet The Spy:
    Harriet (who is quite well off): I hate money.
    Sport (her friend who is much poorer): You’d like it a lot more if you didn’t have any.

  52. Oh Suze. I feel your pain.
    I too, find the incandescent beacon of style and fashion irrestible. See, it’s a tricky thing – either you are met with a gasp that says ‘You spent THAT much on a dress/shoes/a bag?!’ or another gasp that says ‘You only paid five quid for that?!’. Half the fun of buying, for me anyhow, is sifting through piles and piles of clothes, taking hours poring over every detail and stitching. I think you (and most people who read this blog – save for the bajillionaire, perhaps) share the same philosophy of ‘Don’t wear your price on your bag/shoes/clothes’. For example, I would pay much more for a beautifully made unknown designer’s dress rather than a standard LV wallet that I didn’t actually like save for the fact that it had a screaming LV print all over it = MONEY(having said that, I do have a vintage Chanel purse that was discovered rather last minute on the last hour of my nineteenth birthday…but that’s another story). And in the end, who really cares how much YOU spend? Instead of asking ‘How much was it?’ then should instead say ‘How much do you love it?’.
    In which case, I would answer ‘SO FREAKING MUCH’, because I love each and every item that I’ve bought and I don’t think I can find one item that I’ve overpaid for.

  53. Money is quite possibly one of the most difficult things to talk about. Next may possibly be food choices, but both are worth looking at at some point.
    I love that you posted on this topic. It is real, that’s for sure.
    I am ageless, though I have been on this earth a little longer than you, but so what. Your blog is very mature an well thought out and generous. Money cant buy that.
    I think I have told you, that I love how you mix designer pieces with thrift, and break boundaries between the “hierarchy” of clothes. You buy what you love, and that is awesome.
    I definitely go for the high end designers too, but I am a patient shopper, and will wait until it goes on massive sale, unless I truly adore something, and know that It won’t make it to the sale, that happens sometimes. I also love vintage.
    I believe you should buy the best quality that you can afford, well that is what I do, and I keep clothes for a very very long time.
    Being creative helps too, because then you are not limited by what everyone else is wearing, nor are you a slave to an industry, that constantly changes, and makes you believe that you must spend a bajiillion dollars to be right.
    It is true that style has nothing what so ever to do with money, money just happens to make some things easier at times.
    But not always, as you touched on.
    Money is a very big issue, and it goes way beyond the scope of this post, or these comments.
    Everyone has thoughts, ideas and judgments, both positive and negative. I am sure why that question has been asked. Everyone deserves to have everything they want, and can have it, if they open their minds, and look for ways to get it. (non selfishly of course)
    I think what it boils down to, for me, is, to be aware of my thinking. What I mean by this, is… Do I want to buy something, because I really need, want or love it, or do I think it will make me feel better to have it? Oh, the ever popular self worth issues…
    It can get pretty deep I guess, as it hits many levels. So I will close.
    Keep doing what you do, because it’s awesome!

  54. Ugh, this happens to me all the time. People always think they can comment or say stupid things, but it’s like, “hey I dont go out drinking every weekend or buy cheap clothes every week, so when i buy something nice, its the same amount as you spend in like, two nights of drinking”. I know that I don’t even need to justify my purchases to other people, but sometimes it gets really tiring.
    And you know, anyone that has a problem reading about stuff like that can just not come here and read it. That’s just crazy.

  55. ah well, once in a while a post like this has to be written. sounds like you’re no more funny (about money) than the rest of us. we can all relate. there are people who would question my values – i choose buying/having clothing that i love over … most things.
    money, values, style – all personal things.
    to each her own!

  56. You know what? Even if you DIDN’T work for your money — even if you did have a ‘sugar daddy,’ or wealthy parents, or a trust fund from some dead relative, this is the world we live in. Some people have money and some people don’t. Some people spend the money they have and some people save it. As long as you’re responsible for yourself and whomever may be dependent upon you, you should spend to your heart’s content. Or save. Or both. 🙂

  57. I don’t think I’ve seen anybody address this before. Nice job.
    I don’t think you are much different from any other girl (or guy) who loves fashion and loves to shop. Your purchases run the gamut, and I think others’ do, too. Don’t we all like a mix of high and low, from all different shops? Either way, it’s still fun to read about things other people like, have or want. Regardless of cost.
    AND I don’t think you owe anyone an explanation. You are what‚Äîand who‚Äîyou are: Susie Bubble. That’s why we come here to see what you have to say and show.

  58. Susie, very well written! I agree with you 100%. I guess that being a blogger exposes you to those who are a bit too inquisitive and cannot keep their questions to themselves..with questions such as, “HOW MUCH DID YOU SPEND ON THAT?!” so on and so forth… I think that most people that ask though, ask on an anonymous basis. Just today I experienced my 1st negative comment and 1st question asking me how much a piece I bought was. I found the former quite offensive and insensitive as that anonymous poster does not really even know me and I even scheduled a post to answer that curious mind. Anyhow, there will always be people that can’t stop pondering about the value of certain items instead of its beauty.

  59. Bloody hell, I go internet-less for one night and I come back and I think we have outdone ourselves in stimulating commentary….this is REALLY fascinating…. a few things to clear up though before we get into the nitty gritty…
    1) I’m not peed off at people who do wonder ‘How does she afford these things?’ – it’s part and parcel of fashion blogging. You’re inviting people to see your lifestyle, you can’t expect people NOT to be inquisitive. I’ve done the sneaky wonder about people once or twice…
    I do think a lot of people who do email me about money matters tend to be people who don’t really know my background or even that I’m working. Me thinks the pink and baby green kids people into thinking I’m a cutesy uni student…
    2) So, from a self explanation, the post has really opened up issues that I actually have been wanting to bring up which is this flip reverse situation of the ‘haves’ and ‘have-notes’ that I’ve sort of seen expressed in a few ways on the fashion blogosphere. So really, with my own self justification aside, this funny money business was something I wanted to at least attempt to write about.
    As Arline has said, there’s no way of getting to the bottom of it here, but I must say, everyone has given a chunky bit of two cents that is really interesting.
    I want to individually reply but I will have to wait until I get to work…

  60. I agree with practically all of the above. My first thoughts on reading your post were: who on earth goes ‘hello student here’ – are they going to write angry letters at Vogue too?
    I have a good job, and probably make more money than most people my age (which is 25). But I also work long hours, including occasional night work and standby during the weekend. And it’s nobody’s business what I do with my money since I EARNED IT. And for me, though I shop a lot, I choose to spend most of my money on travel. I once got a snubby remark from a friend (who was still in college back then) on my travel habits. I was baffled that she just couldn’t be happy for me that I was able to live out my dream. For which I do still have to work hard and save up, but it’s a sacrifice I’m more than willing to take. So currently I can’t afford the MiuMiu teacup shoes as I’m saving up for going to Japan, but I’d certainly support you getting them. And I do plan on saving up next year for a decent timeless leather bag (yes perhaps Chanel).
    I believe it is about personal choice & priorities, and working to make it happen. And not begrudging someone else’s success.

  61. you’ve answered all my questions of the ‘how can she afford all that’ and ‘omg how can she have all those clothes?’
    great post susie. you work hard for your dosh. i’m glad to know you’re not going to be all designer clad if you do indeed become a gazillionaire 😉

  62. LOL! I can’t believe that people email to specifically ask you such a thing!
    On the flip side, there is nothing clever or thoroughly angelic about relying on high street thrift… I’m sure everyone knows the ethical issues surrounding cheap, mass produced clothing (and products in general).
    However, it becomes a modern athropology issue to delve into this whole debate so bla bla bla.
    Like with food, I feel fashion is best when consumed as a part of a balanced diet 🙂 xox

  63. You said: “I’m probably a lot older (24) than some people who read this blog and I’m just at a bit of a go-getter stage in my life (I fully plan on burning out and collapsing mid-work in a high heel clad dramatic way at the age of 30….).”
    Well, I am your age +10. And I really wish you all the best! It’s fun reading your blog. It’s great you do what you like, love your life and make some mola to spend the way you like as well.
    But I really really hope you will never have to experience to burn out and collapse at the age of 30. Unfortunately working in the arts I have seen this happen to a few too many people, including myself, and the way back to a normal life is way to long and hard for it to be worth it. So I only wish you fun times, happiness and joy forever 🙂 Please take care of yourself whilest livin’ hard and givin’ it all!

  64. Envy, Envy, Envy. Money you earn, you get from parents, or other sources you can be proud of is YOUR money. And you do whatever you want with it. Mostly, people that go around saying: ‘well, if I had all that money I would blah blah too!”, “I’d never pay 100 euros for a t-shirt’…etc. are the people that envy you. Not because you have the money, but because you chose to spend it this way. And they want to make you feel guilty. I could not care less.
    Everybody chooses to spend their money the way it makes them happier. I have been a poor student and still kept my style and yes, I envied those who could have more. A healthy envy. When I have had money, I have done whatever I thought it was best at the time. And everybody does so. When people ask me how much I’ve spent on a cardigan I ask them back how often they go out for dinner. That usually shuts them up (my generation here in Amsterdam spends an enormous amount of money having dinner out every Friday and Saturday-minimum). For all they know, I can be eating boiled potatoes all week in order to buy that cardigan.
    I still envy those at Sartorialist wearing all those designer clothes, I envy you Susie too, but to be honest, it’s not because of the money you might have (that I have no idea of), it’s because of your style and your choices.
    And don’t forget, this is your blog. If poorer (the term poor really does not apply yo any of us readers I think) readers feel you should write about other things ‘cheaper’, they can take it or leave it and go read something else. Inspiration comes from everywhere, if someone is so narrow minded to ONLY want to read about things they can afford, how sad is that?
    Long comment, sorry!!
    xx Andrea

  65. I really enjoy it when you produce articles like this one. And I used the word “article” and not the word “post” because I feel it’s been a while now you have reached another level in your writing. The way you can express your own self and, at the same time, express the majority of your readers and their ideas, that have already been running somewhere around their heads but couldn’t find a way out, that’s extraordinary! I first “met” you in StyleDiary, and since then I’ve been enjoying your course in the world f fashion and the internet. There’s nothing more to say except well done, Susie.
    please do visit me sometime in

  66. Susie, to my shame, I have wondered occasionally how you manage it, but really only in the sense, “If I ate less parmesan, could I do more than visit items I wish I owned, looking longingly at them? Susie Bubble manages it. How much parmesan does she eat?”
    Besides, you inspire me to save for things that I really want, and also to look twice at things I might disregard if I were less dependent on imported cheeses. How much money you earn is entirely your business, but it is encouraging to know that it IS possible to have beautiful things on not the biggest of budgets.

  67. Don’t feel guilty about what you spend with what you EARNED. If you were a kept woman with nothing better to do than shop all day, and lead an otherwise meaningless life, I’d probably be more judgemental, but you’re not. So don’t apologize. I first started coming here to gain a completely refreshing perspective on fashion; you ARE NOT an elitist, and you blog about a variety of stores, from DSM to Oxfam. Some people rag me because as a student I apparently shouldn’t spend so much money one piece of clothing, but 1) I buy for lasting quality and aesthetic and 2) it’s none of their damn business.
    Keep on doing what you’re doing Susie. You’re a freaking marvel.

  68. what hasn’t already been said?…I know…work harder! Because being a bajillionnaire is a shit load of fun and with JK Rowling off the cards (she’s soft), Imelda needs a new sidekick in Monte Carlo – I’ll send the G5, be ready to hit the craps table by sunrise!

  69. It’s kind of funny because I’ve created the world around my blog through thriftyness. I really enjoy spending little on clothes and looking great. Which is why I always end up showing how much I paid for my items. I’m one of those few that do. I dont necessarily need to, but I just do. Between thrift stores, ebay, and resale shops like buffalo exchange Ive amassed a gigantic wardrobe that Im in love with. Then I worked retail for a year at Fornarina where behind the scenes you get outrageous discounts. I never show the price of my fornarina items unless I bought them somewhere else. Because they were all 80% off the pricetag. Which usually ends up being nothing and tricks people into thinking its cheaper than it really is. I was lucky in the sense that I got so much clothes for so little. Which is the same thing other retailers run into.
    I think that people who make their lives public like you do, me, anyone else really will be open targets to get asked questions like this. Because for every internet person that asks you, so will a person in your face. Its the same people, just different methods. And even if you did tell them, it really wouldnt matter would it? There is only one justification to how do you afford all this? Its because you work!

  70. I get this alot too, not on the blog but personally.
    I was brought up in a poor family and I clawed my way out and now I make pretty good money. When people are horrified by the amount I’ve spent on bags etc I, like everyone else here, don’t feel guilty since I’ve worked very hard and earned my money so, like you, can spend it on whatever I bloody well please. I am just as thrilled to get something marvelous for ¬£5 as I am ¬£500.
    You only have one life and all that.

  71. People always seem to want to judge how other people spend their money. I think it is partly envy and partly about wanting to justify their own choices. If you’ve earned it, you are entitled to do what you like with it, and it’s really no one else’s business.

  72. Completely agree. I’m not going to lie, sometimes I feel a bit jealous when I see people buy expensive items, but that just makes me think that if I really want something, I have to work for it. I also go from cheap to expensive: my standbys are Old Navy and Marshalls, to name a few, but I also have Yves Saint Laurent and Marc Jacobs (found on eBay!). If I want something expensive, I usually can afford it, but if I purchase something expensive, it’s something that I’ve been lusting after a long time and now I won’t get tired of quickly.
    Sadly, I know how you feel about the money questions. I’ve had supposed friends make snarky comments! I’ve held a steady job for close to six years (now is only the second time I’m unemployed) and I worked hard to save my money, so I think it’s my business to spend whatever I want to spend.
    So Susie, rock on! Don’t listen to those people!

  73. At 24 you’re OLDER than your readers? Actually, I guess you probably are (whereas I absolutely eclipse them.)
    How do you afford things? You work. Novel idea, I know. I work too. It’s crazy.

  74. You don’t have to explain, but anyway, you’re right. There are so many jealous people on Internet who fancy blogger’s life.
    In my opnion, your blog is just great, I never tought that you were an obnoxious fashionista who despies people who can’t afford luxury good.
    Bonne continuation 🙂

  75. I wish that I could say that I was surprised at people judging you harshly for spending on money on so-called frivolities but unfortunately the puritans are alive and well and criticising us. Like you I love clothes and style and trying to look individual but there are always people who zoom up with a shriek of “How much did you spend on that??”; to which the only correct answer is “None of your business! Stop being so crass!”.
    You earn your money, how you spend it is no-one’s business but yours. Collecting art or first editions would be deemed worthy but buying lovely clothes is shallow and frivolous? I don’t buy it (sorry I hate puns). What is shallow about bringing a little joy and creativity into a hard working life?
    On a completely different note I am a few years older than you,if you are only 24 and most of your readers are younger I officially feel ancient!

  76. We work hard for our money girl! No need to apologize for it. Though instead of buying designer stuff with my bonus checks…I get tattoos. I’d probobly have my beloved balenciage boots by now, and then some if I had given my poor skin a rest 😛

  77. Yes Bubble, you can go crazy thinking about this. My simple solution to this COMPLEX problem is to tithe 10% of what I make a year and then spend the rest without guilt and enjoy life!

  78. I’m going to be ONE dissenting voice here – Money matters because one person’s Louis Vuitton wallet is another person’s life on our planet. It’s like saying well, if I can afford an SUV, why shouldn’t I drive it? It’s my god-given right! It’s a very materialistic American attitude and I’m going to get flak for this.
    It’s true that you can selfishly spend every penny away, coming from a wealthy family and all that, but I think a bit of guilt is in order with the hefty tags of hundreds of pounds for a ‘designer” t-shirt you might not care for 2 years down the road whereas Oxfam might be able to keep a family alive in Africa or Burma for the same amount over the same period.
    I love fashion, but I don’t own a mountain of clothes anymore, I spend on necessities and try to give some of it away as well.
    You look better when you’re pared back, anyway, and to be stylish, you just need to be original, not a fashion victim/slave. There’s also a creative conscious effort to restyle and remake what is available, like Rx57, and I tend to frequent the more socially-conscious bloggers these days or Street Style.

  79. @Hmmm – don’t go political, materialism is not an American issue. Everybody likes to own nice stuff.
    As for spending a lot of money on designer stuff: a lot of these pieces are handmade, the craftmanship and hours of labor that go into this are worth the money. And who says you can’t do both? Spend money both on designer stuff and charity. Everyone is free to choose what they want to do with their money, and I don’t think they ought to feel guilty about it.

  80. My opinion:
    Do whatever you want, respect others, respect the enviroment, respect yourself. Enjoy life.
    Enjoy fashion.

  81. hi susie, i get that question sometimes too, even though i hardly talk about my super shopping trips as much as you do. i am still a student (at the bloody age of 25) and i don’t have an income of my own, but i get emails occasionally asking me if my comme des garcons or undercover stuff are fake (WHAT!!!) or how i afford them…
    i don’t think you need to do any explaining and neither do i. i am very fortunate to be able to live the lifestyle that i do, but one should not feel guilty, because after all, you’ve worked your way to where you are and pay for your own stuff, so why do you have to explain your expenses like we, your readers, were your auditors?
    i am very thankful to my parents for not spoiling me too much so i didn’t become a brat, but also for spoiling me enough so i know that having money (as much as people love to deny it), does make life better, and i know i will work equally hard or harder than my parents did to sustain this lifestyle.

  82. The money question, it’s surprisingly uncomfortable one so I tend to think it (my) other way around. I try to be vegan and don’t buy the cheese which is polluting etc. and get new, sometimes expensive stuff instead. Works like charm, every time!
    But really, last year I was featured in an article in Finland’s most circulated newspaper’s monthly supplement. It featured 5 bloggers besides me, between ages 13-17, and the theme was teenager girls and spending culture, something in that lines. The journalist followed one of my shopping days, you know the usual: some mags, a book, trifted clothes, designer clothes from sale. It basically made us look like airheads (or maybe I’m just trying to you know, ignore it), and it got lot of response in the Finnish blogoshpere. Some thought it was just dissing bloggers, some agreed that we are mindless shoppers. Well, the journalist didn’t actually feature the other girls’ purchases, so yes, a mindless shopper here!
    It was kinda bad because one of my favorite bloggers just threw me in that box, and I had to defend myself which now seems silly. Also, my english teacher had read the article and brought the subject up in one class and asked who had read the piece. Most of the class, because let me remind you, we only have one bigger newspaper in this area, had read it. The teacher also asked the notorius question “how can you afford all these (designer)items” like I was Paris Hilton just buying the same amount of stuff every day! And how could I afford it, then? Telemarketing for a month! And so what if my mom had paid for it all! But it was a really uncomfortable situation, and now thinking about it…she’s well in her 40s and a english teachers…manners, where? And Finland, oh Finland. Everyone is jealous over everything expensive clothing, it seems. It’s like if you’re wearing designer items and looking nice wearing them, not allowed. It’s slowly changing, thank god. I just can’t stand the jealous culture, though I wear 33 cent finds from a place where I go with a bus.
    Sorry for the long comment, but I just feel like letting this out to interweb. And from now on, I shall be not jealous over anyones exxpensive buys just because they’re expensive. Live and let live.

  83. Oh I just have to continue, when I was little, my mom told me bed-time stories about meatballs (try post-soviet with single mom with low salary) and my most happiest memory about food was a milkshake made from one cheap ice cream. I am very thankful about all the nice things I have today, in the same way I’m thankful about my friends. Materialism sucks, but I really appreciate my mom, the planet, etc other people included.
    Wow, as much as I try to assure everyone not to defend themselves with this money funyn thing, I end up doing it myself, in excessive amounts and probably missing half of everyone’s points. Oh dear.

  84. Wow…I miss so much after being away from the computer for a couple of days. Excellent post and very intersting discussion on the haves/have nots. I haven’t seen it that way before. My own blog centers around bargain buys and strategies. When I started blogging a few years ago, I was a broke student who managed to find great deals at sample sales. A few years later, I finished school and suddenly found myself in a position to afford some things that I would not have imagined dropping money on before. So now I’m kind of at a crossroad of sorts.
    Like everyone said, I completely agree that you should not have to justify spending what may seem to others like a large sum of money on fashion items. You obviously have a good job, you’ve worked hard at it, and you can afford things as a result of your hard work. I don’t think anyone in your position should have to be apologetic for it, and for that matter, neither should others who have money from other sources.
    That said, I suppose I can provide some insight on the “sanctimony” of the have-nots, which I may have been guilty of at one time. While I don’t see a problem with spending money on things one can afford, I have criticized purchasing designer items simply for the sake of the designer name, or incurring debt as a result, or necessities of buying designer, etc. I felt that living within one’s means, or what designer labels mean, are legitimate points to make. At the same time, I fully recognize that there are many good reasons for buying designer items (e.g., the design itself, the quality), and I certainly don’t automatically associate purchasing designer items with negative connotations. I also don’t praise cheap purchases for the sake of cheapness either–let’s face it, usually we get what we paid for. Most bargain blogs I read are quite sensible, and it is very unfortunate that some people chose to bash people who have designer items for no reason other than the mere possession of designer labels. As in life away from the Web, some people just bash “rich” people just for the heck of it. Others critize designer goods because of their moral convictions regarding thriftiness and resources. I can agree with some points, but I find it distasteful when some effectively try to impose their views on how others should live.
    Now that I have some money to spend, I have a much better idea of why people would make higher-end purchases…I even made a couple myself. A lot of times certain designs are simply not available/not the same in a cheaper form, and if you can afford it (and particularly if you have worked hard for it), why not? And even if something cheaper is available, it wouldn’t be worth it if it isn’t worn. I didn’t really understand this viewpoint until I was in a position to make these types of decisions, and I suspect that’s what’s going on with some of the designer-bashing by some of the have-nots.
    One of the things I like most about your blog is your ability to appreciate designer goods for the design, quality, and for the the sake of fashion. You’ve never once flaunted them as symbols of privilege. The decisions you made to purchase things, both high and low, were based on the fact that you like those items and wanted to do creative things with them. It’s sad for me to hear that anyone is taking issue with the fact that you spent your hard-earned money on things you enjoy.
    Don’t work too hard! You’re too young to burn out.

  85. It’s so sad that you have had to write this post, and it’s amazing how many people have experienced the same thing. I’m a student so my own personal income is relatively small, yet my family is relatively well-off and I often receive somewhat expensive things as presents for Christmas or my birthday. I have been made to feel bad about things I’m given, which in retrospect makes me angry. I’m lucky enough to be given beautiful things that I absolutely love — what do they expect me to do, refuse them? I have had nothing to do with my family’s financial situation, so I should neither be applauded or scorned because of it.
    The truth of the matter is, people who get nasty about money forget that if they had the same blessings, they’d likely be spending similarly. Thanks to shows like My Super Sweet 16, etc. many people also take for granted that people who can afford/own nice things are usually spoiled and lazy — in reality many people have money through their own efforts and hard work!

  86. Oh, and an addition, after reading the comment posted by Hmmm…
    Why do people assume, as well, that people who buy nice things spend exclusively on themselves? Many, many people donate to charity quietly, without drawing attention to it. It’s very well and good to be socially conscious, but at some point things become somewhat ridiculous. People who make money do deserve to spend it on themselves once in a while. I agree that spending just to spend is selfish and destructive, but if you work hard for your money and purchase things you absolutely love and enjoy, it seems ridiculous to criticize.
    People also need to remember that there are negative sides to purchasing cheap as well. There is rarely any way to tell where the product came from or how the people who made it are treated, but odds are if the item costs next to nothing, the workers are making next to nothing as well. There is no guarantee that even expensive items are being made ethically, but there’s probably better odds.

  87. This is such a timely post. I’ve actually been financially comfortable for the first time in *my life* for the past year or so and things have only recently gotten even better on that front. Does that mean I’m going to suddenly want a Burberry bag and the Miu Miu tea cup shoes? No. But I’d like to hope that being able to treat myself and having that subsequently show up on my blog isn’t going to affect how people see or judge me.

  88. Hi – a bit late on this one…but – I think I totally get where you’re coming from on this post. You’re too darn polite to just ignore all the boring (though probably good-natured) ‘wah, i can’t afford this stuff’ comments. As one of your older readers and as a fellow Londoner, I am not flush with cash by any means, and in my circle, I’ve always recognised that when people who have more money than me say they can’t afford ¬£600 on a coat really they mean they would rather spend that ¬£600 on a camera, holiday, towards a car etc.
    But on this note, I do like when you mention prices and how you balance your undisclosed budget purely from a logistical point of view…it’s interesting to read about how you manage to keep your look fresh and acknowledge that there is usually a financial burden there!

  89. Oh and I’m linking this in my next round of link love because it’s a cool post that fits my blog 😀

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